Chastity: Speed Limits for Emotions

Chastity

I was reflecting on chastity recently, specifically remembering two girls I had met who recently got pregnant out of wedlock. In one situation the boyfriend manned up and stayed, in the other the guy disappeared or was possibly unidentified.

In today's world of relative morals, it's not uncommon for many to be introduced into a society of reckless sexual conduct. And it's because of this I began to wonder how I would teach chastity in a way that makes the logic clear.

Speed Limits

Emotions are like driving a car. The faster you drive, the funner it gets. There's nothing wrong with this, in fact there's everything right with this, however there's one precaution: the faster you drive the more serious the consequences if something goes wrong. Cars crash and people die or are seriously injured. The equivalent would be pregnancy or emotional scarring.

Society has found that the common public can't handle driving faster than certain speeds in certain cars and certain locations. So we invented speed limits.

If one wants to drive at full speed, there is a vehicle and course designed just for that. One wouldn't be allowed to drive 100 mph on the freeway, however jump into an Audi R8 on a closed race track and you could reach almost 200 mph. This vehicle is marriage.

The Point of Limits

Some people wonder if they are decent drivers, how come they can't drive as fast as they feel comfortable? If they have a partner driving with them, and the partner is consenting, let everyone else drive slow and let them drive fast. The argument they give is "it doesn't effect anyone, so why does it matter?"

The reality is it does effect people. Here are some ways it does:

- Just because someone is confident doesn't mean they are competent. They might think they can drive at those speeds, only to find that a mistake has happened.
 
- Those who aren't capable of driving fast will notice people driving fast and want to participate. So you might be competent, but your example leads the incompetent into dangerous situations.

The reality of societies is that they tend to move as fast as the majority can handle, and at times the minority. Some individuals might be capable of moving faster than society, however the benefits of a functioning society outweigh the benefits of going solo.

Today's Emotional Speed Limits

Today's emotional speed limits have largely been eliminated, and the accidents are startling. From 1979 the percentage of children born out of wedlock has risen from 11% to nearly 50%.

If this continues, it won't be long until most children will be born out of wedlock.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/politics/10172627/Most-children-will-be-born-out-of-wedlock-by-2016.html

Standards Work

Even though society has dropped its standards, doesn't mean that the standards don't work anymore. If anything the results of society show that dropping the standards doesn't work. Time and time again I see daring, confident, and largely incompetent individuals put themselves into regretful situations.

People and Power

People and Power

In an earlier post I talked about the key to wealth:

Light
Truth
Knowledge
Power
People
Wealth

In this post I want to talk about power, and how it is central to the whole system:

First, what good is having access to the truth, and knowing the truth, if a person never LIVES by that truth and knowledge to gain power? The value of truth and knowledge is in the application of it.

Second, one might argue what is the point of power if it is not used to attract people and wealth? Which is true, one should make that the focus of their power, however, there is a factor in the equation that is important to remember which is the agency of people. And this is what I want to discuss today.

People and Power.

Power is ability and stability. Defined online it is the ability to act. Yet it is also the ability not to be acted upon, which is stability.

When we have literally no more ability to act, we are dead. Power is what gives us life. When we want to act, but can't because of a larger force acting upon us, we have encountered a boundary, and experience bondage. When our power supersedes the strength of the boundary we are free of that bondage. Power brings freedom. Lastly, when we have both life, and freedom, we feel happy because we can compare how we felt when we didn't feel alive and when we were not free but acted upon or in bondage.

In summary: Power is ability and stability and the key to life, liberty, and happiness. When you seek power, seek for truths that will increase your ability, and stability.

All people are attracted to power. Even the people who through religious interpretations shun power, as they suppose, still seek it in conflicted ways. In seeking power, people have two choices: The first is lasting and edifying to all who are involved, and the second is a temporarily shift in the balance of power that ultimately results in the loss of power.

Justice and Mercy

In the pursuit of further power people will trade their powers with each other, power for power. When this happens, both are edified and both feel an increase in their own power. This is called justice, which originally means: "the quality of being fair and equal." People will also practice mercy, which is giving power to someone else without thought of receiving power in return. The benefit of mercy is that it places fallen people back in a state where they can again participate in the mutually beneficial practice of justice.

Lies and Deception

Someone, somewhere, realized that sometimes they can get away with offering the appearance of power, in exchange for real power. When someone lies or deceives to gain power from or over someone else, the balance of power shifts for a moment in time, because it is not equal, and the liar receives more than they gave. Ultimately, the deceived person will realize that they were lied to, and will seek what was lost from the liar.

The last thing a liar wants is to be brought to justice (meaning equality, keep in mind that some people have distorted justice to mean unfair punishment, which is not true justice. True justice simply means equality.) so they will do everything they can to prolong the time that they have power. Prolonging this stage of inequality requires power, which they gain either by further lies, or by using up their stores. Finally, when enough people have been lied to and their stores are empty, the liar will be left to face all of the people who are seeking justice.

People and Power Revisited:

People are learning through their experience the realities of justice, mercy, and lies and deception. Some are just in some ways and deceptive in others. Some are very just and merciful, while some are very dishonest and deceptive.

In your pursuit of people and wealth through your acquisition of power you will find that you attract all of these varieties. The liars that you attract will not bring you wealth, or if they do, it will be a temporary exchange while they take advantage of others.

If you happen to live in a society that is full of liars, I am sorry, because by its very nature the only wealth you can obtain will either be temporary, or it will be the stores of other people.

In any case, seek out the just and the merciful. Personally, I would rather live in a society of two just and merciful people than in a society of a million liars. As the liars ravage the stores of the just, their will be great happiness between the small society of the just and merciful, because the exchanges will be real.