Chastity: Speed Limits for Emotions

Chastity

I was reflecting on chastity recently, specifically remembering two girls I had met who recently got pregnant out of wedlock. In one situation the boyfriend manned up and stayed, in the other the guy disappeared or was possibly unidentified.

In today's world of relative morals, it's not uncommon for many to be introduced into a society of reckless sexual conduct. And it's because of this I began to wonder how I would teach chastity in a way that makes the logic clear.

Speed Limits

Emotions are like driving a car. The faster you drive, the funner it gets. There's nothing wrong with this, in fact there's everything right with this, however there's one precaution: the faster you drive the more serious the consequences if something goes wrong. Cars crash and people die or are seriously injured. The equivalent would be pregnancy or emotional scarring.

Society has found that the common public can't handle driving faster than certain speeds in certain cars and certain locations. So we invented speed limits.

If one wants to drive at full speed, there is a vehicle and course designed just for that. One wouldn't be allowed to drive 100 mph on the freeway, however jump into an Audi R8 on a closed race track and you could reach almost 200 mph. This vehicle is marriage.

The Point of Limits

Some people wonder if they are decent drivers, how come they can't drive as fast as they feel comfortable? If they have a partner driving with them, and the partner is consenting, let everyone else drive slow and let them drive fast. The argument they give is "it doesn't effect anyone, so why does it matter?"

The reality is it does effect people. Here are some ways it does:

- Just because someone is confident doesn't mean they are competent. They might think they can drive at those speeds, only to find that a mistake has happened.
 
- Those who aren't capable of driving fast will notice people driving fast and want to participate. So you might be competent, but your example leads the incompetent into dangerous situations.

The reality of societies is that they tend to move as fast as the majority can handle, and at times the minority. Some individuals might be capable of moving faster than society, however the benefits of a functioning society outweigh the benefits of going solo.

Today's Emotional Speed Limits

Today's emotional speed limits have largely been eliminated, and the accidents are startling. From 1979 the percentage of children born out of wedlock has risen from 11% to nearly 50%.

If this continues, it won't be long until most children will be born out of wedlock.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/politics/10172627/Most-children-will-be-born-out-of-wedlock-by-2016.html

Standards Work

Even though society has dropped its standards, doesn't mean that the standards don't work anymore. If anything the results of society show that dropping the standards doesn't work. Time and time again I see daring, confident, and largely incompetent individuals put themselves into regretful situations.